I’m going to take a big stance on this one with the intention that you will listen…

Your disconnection is destroying your life!

How do I know? Because I’ve seen and experienced the cost of disconnected in my life and the pain it has cost others…

It’s not until about 3 months ago that I realized I had been living a completely disconnected life.

I had mastered the “art” of lone-wolfing and trying to do it all alone. 

I’d get caught up in the doing-ness, the “not enough time” lie, and believed that I didn’t have time to see others because I had so much going on…

Yup, I put myself on a pedestal (as if nobody else had anything else going on in their lives).

Being the high-achiever that I was…

I refused free vacations from friends to Ibiza, Amsterdam and Spain, and many family vacations and experiences all because “I was too busy” to attend.

I thought I was so freaking important that they became unimportant and the sad part is, they truly began to feel that way.

I remember my friends telling me each time they ran into my dad and he would ask how I was doing and asked them, “Can you just ask Joanie to call me?!” 

(heart-breaking to think about now)…

I even remember a past boyfriend of 7 years telling me he had major health issues and needed to travel and go see the world because he won’t be around forever…

He was begging me to stop putting work first…

What did I do?

I ignored it because I was obsessed with growing my business and hitting top bonuses.

Finally, I caved

I paid for an all-expense trip for the two of us to Europe as if that would make it better…

It was too late. After 7 years of being disconnected and self-absorbed, we broke up. 

I used to control every aspect of my relationships demanding things be done my way…

If you’re standing in the way of me hitting my sales goal, income goal or life goals, GTF out! 

“I ain’t got time for that…” 

Sure it may have felt powerful to say and really all it was disconnected, self-righteous, and inconsiderate.

I had something to prove, I had to do it all alone. It was as if I was running some feminist movement in my relationship…

So my partners never felt they were enough for me. They were never good enough, never made enough money, never could provide enough…

I chose to avoid vulnerable conversations because #1, I didn’t know how to have them, #2, having them made me “look weak”…

And God forbid, I looked weak to anyone?! 😳…

The overall price I’ve paid for disconnection?!

Unfulfilled and disconnected relationships, never truly feeling love because I never really gave it…

Thousands of missed life experiences, joy, happiness, and fulfillment that comes through vulnerability, putting guards down, playing full out…

Real connection.

Now, here’s the real question,

What price have others in my life paid for my disconnection?!

A lot…

I had an awakening through a Leadership program I’ve stepped into…

Now, each day I wake up and I get to choose CONNECTION! I choose to be loving (most of the time lol) and I am aware of when I fall into disconnection.

After all, patterned behaviors take time to change. 

I look at each moment as a new moment tochoose again”.

If I said something that was disconnecting, I acknowledge my breakdown and choose connection.

If I lean away from support because “it looks weak to ask for help”, I acknowledge those trying to support me and my lone-wolfing, and choose connection again.

It’s been pretty profound… 

Want to know what has opened up?!

So much…

My willingness to be seen…

Not for the person who has it all together, because I don’t…none of us do.

But for my authenticity and vulnerability and the freedom, I feel to just be me.

I’ve developed a love stronger and bigger than I’ve ever known for my partner Scott and continue to choose to open my heart without the need to protect it.

I’ve been more connected with my family now than I have ever been and they feel loved and seen.

I take time to connect with random strangers and serve others in spite of what I have going…

Why? 

Because as I’ve stepped into my Leadership, into what I call Transformational Leadership;

It’s not about me at all. 

It’s about you.

Being CONNECTION has truly changed my life and it continues to open up more miracles for me the more I continue to choose it.

Rockstar,

As Scott is out in Austin for a few weeks spending time detoxing and healing his body from cancer and stepping into optimum health…

I want to give back…

I’ve opened up time for 10 spots before I leave for Austin on the 29th of April to give back and help you shift through whatever it is you’re going through.

We will chat about wherever I can support you…

>> Click here to book your 30 min call with me so I can help you Unleash the power within you… <<

With Love,

 

 

 

 

P.S. Oh one thing I forgot to mention…

The truth about  where my disconnection stemmed…

My mom died 21 years ago and it was at that moment, I chose to shut my heart down to everyone in my life, fearing at an unconscious level that they would leave me too.

So I disconnected and chose disconnection each time I had an opportunity to connect.

I put achieving at work, hitting my goals and what “had” to get done as the #1 priority and everyone else in my life suffered.

The price I paid and others paid for this unconscious decision was real…

I share this with you because I am taking a stand for you stepping into connection…

Connection doesn’t just happen, YOU get to create it. And how you create it, is just BE it…

When you fall out of it, just choose again. 😘
I hope this helps…

Looking forward to connecting with a few of you this week and next…

 

P.P.S. Does this resonate with you at all?

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I so want to hear!

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